How a Women’s Empowerment and Process Group Can Help You Grow
Thinking about joining a women’s empowerment and interpersonal process group? Learn how group therapy can help you feel more connected, confident, and understood—especially during times of transition like infertility, pregnancy loss, new motherhood, involuntary childlessness, or menopause.
A quick note: The phrases “process group” and “interpersonal process group” are used interchangeably throughout this article.
To show you what a women’s process group can offer, let me introduce you to three women who might sound a little like you.
Meet Maya, Sarah, and Sheryl
Maya is a caretaker in her late thirties. She’s the friend everyone turns to, but rarely lets anyone see her own pain. In group, she’s learning how to receive as much as she gives.
Sitting in her car after work, she’s staring at her phone but not quite ready to go home. Lately, something has felt off. She’s surrounded by people all day, yet deeply lonely.
Maya is smart and capable. She keeps things moving. She supports her friends and shows up for her family. But inside, she feels like no one really knows what she’s carrying.
There’s the unspoken grief of an early pregnancy loss she never talks about, not even with her partner. There’s the wish—and the fear of another pregnancy with the possibility of loss.
The growing distance between her and her partner, who also doesn’t know how to talk about it. The pressure of figuring out what comes next in a life that doesn’t feel like it fits anymore.
Some nights, she imagines saying it all out loud—but the thought of being misunderstood keeps her quiet.
Sarah feels invisible. She worries that her needs are “too much,” so she keeps them hidden. In group, she finds out her voice actually matters. People listen.
In her mid-forties, Sarah is raising two energetic children she once longed for with all her heart.
She used to imagine motherhood as pure joy. But now that she’s living it, she finds herself stretched thin. She’s juggling work deadlines, school pickups, and a partner who often seems to need as much managing as the kids.
At the office, she lets her colleagues interrupt her. At home, she bites her tongue when she feels unappreciated. She tells herself she should be grateful. After all, this is the life she wanted. But in quiet moments, resentment shows up, along with a question she’s not sure she’s ready to answer: What about me?
Sheryl is successful on the outside. But inside, she feels disconnected and unsure. In group, she practices showing up as her real self, without the mask.
She is thriving in her career yet quietly grieving the possibility that at 42, she may never become a mother.
She’s been in one long-term relationship after another, each ending with promises that didn’t last. Now she wonders whether starting a family is still possible—and if so, whether she can make it happen before her body decides for her.
The question is tangled with old wounds: a fractured relationship with her parents, years of feeling she had to prove her worth, a longing for stability she’s never truly known. On some days, she convinces herself she’s fine without children. On others, the ache is sharp, and she wishes she had somewhere safe to open up.
Though their details differ, all three are navigating a tension between what they show the world and what they hold inside. You may not be Maya, or Sarah, or Sheryl. But you may be living with an unexpressed longing. You may be looking for a way to shift something within.
You may be seeking more—more depth, more understanding, more connection
The Tension Between What You Show and What You Feel
Maybe it’s your relationship with yourself, your partner, your sister, your best friend, or your parent.
You wish you could speak up about the thoughts and feelings that bubble up inside. You want to be seen and known, but you worry you’re too much or not enough. You fear people won’t understand, and you’ll feel even more alone.
You feel stuck and you want to grow, but you don’t know how. And you wonder: What is the first step toward change?
What Is a Women’s Interpersonal Process Group?
A Woman’s Interpersonal* Process Group could be a doorway to your next step. This isn’t a class or a support group with a set curriculum. A women’s interpersonal process group is a form of group therapy that focuses on relationships: how we relate to ourselves, how we relate to others, and how those dynamics show up in real time.
My group is a Women’s Empowerment and Process Group— an interpersonal process group. In this article, I’ll use “process group” as shorthand. It’s a space where meaningful connection grows through honest conversation and reflection. The group becomes a mirror of your relational world.
Taking risks to share your thoughts and feelings as they arise and receiving in-the-moment feedback highlights patterns and offers the opportunity to practice new ways of being.
Many women come to a process group because they feel isolated, stuck in old patterns, or unsure how to express themselves authentically.
Why Women Like Maya, Sarah, and Sheryl (and Maybe You) Join a Process Group
You may be seeking more—more depth, more understanding, more connection—or something you can’t even put your finger on. You may be tired of pretending everything’s fine. You may want to feel seen and accepted, even when you’re struggling.
In group, you might:
Say something out loud you’ve never told anyone
Receive reflection and support from others who understand
Learn how your words and presence impact people
Challenge beliefs that say you’re too much or not enough
Take emotional risks in a space that feels safe
Over time, you might feel more confident speaking up in everyday life. You might set boundaries in draining or difficult relationships. You might realize you’re not broken—just human, and deserving of care.
The Power of a Women-Only Space
In this group, our focus is on what’s happening between us in the moment. While each woman’s experience is shaped by intersecting identities of race, culture, class, sexuality, and life story, being in a women-only space can ease some of the pressures or dynamics that can show up in mixed-gender settings. Sharing space with other women can sometimes make it easier to open up, take risks, and be curious about how we connect. It offers a starting point to explore our similarities, our differences, and the ways we can grow in the here and now.
You’re not broken—just human, and deserving of care
Is an Interpersonal Process Group Right for You?
This group may be a good fit if you
Feel disconnected or lonely, even in your relationships
Struggle with trust, vulnerability, or expressing your needs
Long for more authentic and fulfilling connections
Are moving through a life transition and feeling unmoored
Want to better understand your patterns in relationships
You don’t need to have a specific issue to join—just a desire to grow and a willingness to show up.
I’m currently accepting members for a new in-person Women’s Empowerment and Process Group in San Diego. This group is designed to support women navigating many of life’s transitions, including:
Infertility
Pregnancy or postpartum changes
Pregnancy or baby loss
Motherhood
Involuntary childlessness
Perimenopause or menopause
Relationship shifts
Or simply the desire for deeper self-awareness and connection
If you’re curious about how a group like this could support you, I’d love to talk. You’ll have a chance to ask questions and explore whether it feels like a good fit.
Click here to learn more or schedule a free consultation.
Personal growth doesn’t have to happen alone. Sometimes the most powerful changes begin by sitting with others, listening, and being heard. If you’re ready to take that step, let’s talk.
How To Decrease Shame After A Pregnancy Loss
Sara joined the group feeling emotionally isolated from her large and loving family. As the parent of a toddler, there were a lot of questions about baby number 2’s arrival. She shared little with family about her recurrent miscarriages and secondary infertility and came to loathe family events. The barrage of questions that would inevitably come, and the feelings of shame were too much. Isolation was easier.
What's your experience like, is it hard to find community? It takes courage and vulnerability to foster connections that support our growth and healing, especially when we're struggling.
As we welcome November, I'm reflecting on October and the advocacy and awareness highlighted through the Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month campaigns on social media. I was reminded by Sara*, a member of my infertility group, how much work there still is to do. Sara's experienced multiple pregnancy losses over recent years and yet never heard of this awareness campaign. How about you?
Sara joined the group feeling emotionally isolated from her large and loving family. As the parent of a toddler, there were a lot of questions about baby number 2’s arrival. She shared little with family about her recurrent miscarriages and secondary infertility and came to loathe family events. The barrage of questions that would inevitably come, and the feelings of shame were too much. Isolation was easier.
Thankfully, someone pointed Sara to my group. She loved hearing from other group members who faced similar dilemmas, and similar grief. She perked up when I shared about the Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness campaign early in the month. We discussed the different hashtags to explore, and the Wave of Light ceremony on October 15th, where people light candles in honor of their babies who have died.
Earlier this week we met for our final group session. Sara beamed as she shared about her disclosure on social media. Inspired by the online community around #pregnancyandinfantlossawarenessmonth and the connections she made in group, Sara shared publicly for the first time about her journey.
She was blown away by the thoughtful comments, love, and compassion she received from her community. When she attended a family event over the weekend, no one asked her about baby number 2. Was it a coincidence? She wasn’t sure, but she felt inspired by the response to her vulnerability and encouraged to keep talking with those she loved.
I share Sara’s experience for a few reasons. To highlight:
1- Campaigns like Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month are so important!
They help create community for people who are feeling isolated. They decrease shame and inspire people, like Sara, to break their silence and gain needed support to weather difficult times. Campaigns like this also help to educate our community so we can be more empathetic towards one another.
2- Your voice matters.
Letting people in takes courage and vulnerability. Letting people know your pain means they can offer you support. Does sharing on social media feel like too much? Consider what it would be like to open up to someone you trust. What might you gain in return?
3- Therapy groups are healing.
Not only do groups decrease isolation, but connecting with others experiencing similar struggles has the power to reduce shame. After all, empathy is the antidote to shame.
I know it can feel scary to step out of your comfort zone. While social media can be a tough place, when you look in the right places there are many supportive communities waiting. To join a group, to speak up, to ask for help— it takes courage. And yet, taking risks, like Sara, is what brings us out of isolation and closer to one another.
If you're interested in joining a group here in San Diego, or virtually throughout California, or would like to explore individual support along your reproductive journey, don’t hesitate to reach out.
Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month: Resources for Connection and Healing
October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. In solidarity with all the families who know this pain, I offer no advice but resources to help you connect with others on your healing journey, and to honor your lost child(ren) throughout the month. You are not alone.
Photo by Jeremy Bishop on Unsplash
In the United States, one in four women experience a miscarriage, and one in 160 experience a stillbirth each year. These number are high, though despite being such a common occurrence the pain is no less.
Perhaps you have experienced a loss yourself. If not, you surely know someone who has, even if you're not aware of it. Losing a baby can be a lonely and isolating time. Unfortunately, death and loss continue to be very private topics in most circles. For some well-meaning family and friends, they're not sure what to say and how to help (this article might be helpful for them to read). And for others, they're unaware just how long these wounds remain. Time marches on, yet for those who have experienced such a loss, time also stands still.
October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month and this Sunday, October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remebrence Day. In solidarity with all the families who know this pain, I offer no advice but resources to help you connect with others on your healing journey, and to honor your lost child(ren) throughout the month. You are not alone.
San Diego Events and Resources for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month
Walk to Remember 2017 Empty Cradle"s annual Walk to Remember will be held on Sunday, October 15, 2017 at Town Center Community Park East in Santee, CA.Side By Side 5K A 5K benefitting Life Perspectives, a non-profit organization that provides healing resources for men and women worldwide who are experiencing loss through miscarriage or abortion.
Empty Cradle A San Diego Based peer support group for parents who have experienced the loss of their baby due to miscarriage, stillbirth, TFMR, infant death, SIDS or SUID. Our goal is to offer bereaved families support via a resource parent network, through monthly meetings, written materials and partnership with the health care community.
Postpartum Health Alliance Lists many more resources, both locally here in San Diego and nationally for families experiencing a loss.
National Events for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month
Remembering Our Babies The official site of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day-- October 15th. Please consult for local to you walks and activities.
Wave of Light October 15th is the wave of light event. The idea is at 7pm no matter what your time zone is you light a candle in remembrance for our angels, if you keep it burning for at least an hour there will be a continual wave of light across the world all day.
Capture Your Grief A 31 day photograph challenge. If you have experienced the death of your baby/ies/child/ren, this project is designed just for you! It doesn’t matter whether you are only a week into this walk or you have been walking this road for 20 years, all are welcome to join in.
Pregnancy Loss Journey A podcast where you can hear from professionals, authors, and organizations in the field, along with personal loss stories.
If you are in San Diego and could benefit from additional support along your journey, please reach out for help. It would be an honor to walk beside you. And if you are somewhere else in the world and looking for counseling around the loss of a pregnancy or infant, please refer to the Pregnancy and Infant Loss Directory.
Please feel free to add any additional local or national events in the comments. If you're mourning the loss of a child and would like to connect with a therapist in the San Diego area, I’m happy to help. Feel free to reach out by phone or email and we can talk about ways you might benefit from counseling.