October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. In solidarity with all the families who know this pain, I offer no advice but resources to help you connect with others on your healing journey, and to honor your lost child(ren) throughout the month. You are not alone.Read More
Like many mom-conversations go, Sara asked about the age difference between my two kids and how I felt about it. She told me that although her daughter was begging for a sibling and her husband was also ready, she wasn’t prepared to get pregnant again just yet. She was conflicted about her timing tho, noting her age and the pressure she was feeling to have another baby.Read More
You have a child, or maybe two or three. You want to grow your family but it's been 6 months or 12 and still nothing. Or you've gotten pregnant but have miscarried. Again, perhaps.
You discover on your own through your late night dates with google what you've got—Secondary infertility. No one's said it but that's what you've got.Read More
Secondary infertility doesn't get a lot of press. Maintaining a strong relationship with your toddler or preschooler can be an added challenge when infertility enters your world. Coping with your own emotions, managing doctor appointments and healing from physical loss(es) is consuming. You might feel your motivation, energy and/or ability to maintain a strong connection with your living child(ren) slipping under such distress.Read More
Someone you love has lost a pregnancy, her baby. You don’t know what to do. Or say. Or how to act. You’re wondering how to show your love for your daughter. Your sister, or your friend you adore so much she’s like your sister. You never had a miscarriage, or lost a baby and have no idea what’s the “right” thing to do or say.Read More
In San Diego, we’re lucky to have so many mental health practitioners. If only everyone in all corners of the globe were as fortunate as we are; choice is certainly a luxury. But having so many choices can also make it a challenge to find a counselor when you need one most. Typically you find yourself searching for a therapist when things aren't going so well, when you really need that extra bit of support. And with so many possibilities, you’re probably wondering— how do I choose!? Where do I start?Read More